Estate Planning for Blended Families

Blended families often come with added layers of complexity when it comes to estate planning. While navigating these challenges can feel overwhelming, proper planning can ensure everyone you care about is provided for. Whether you’re managing assets between a current spouse and children from a previous relationship or trying to prevent family disputes, creating a carefully structured will is crucial.
This guide will walk you through the key considerations and solutions available for inheritance planning in blended families. From understanding legal tools like trusts to exploring tax implications, we aim to help you protect your loved ones and maintain harmony within your family.
What Makes Estate Planning for Blended Families Unique?
Blended families—those that include stepchildren, your own children, and often remarried partners—face complex challenges when planning for the future. Ensuring a fair division of assets can be difficult. For instance:
- Couples often want to provide for their current spouse while safeguarding their children’s inheritance.
- Property, including the family home, may not be easily divided, especially if it accounts for most of the wealth.
- Accidental exclusions from inheritance are common without proper legal drafting, especially for stepchildren.
A lack of proper planning can lead to unfortunate consequences. Without a will, intestacy rules apply, which could unintentionally exclude stepchildren or greatly complicate how assets are divided.
Creating a Will for a Blended Family
There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to wills for blended families. Each family is unique, but here are a few methods to consider:
1. Simple Cash Division
If there are enough assets, you can divide these directly among beneficiaries:
- Your surviving spouse could receive the family home or another portion for their security.
- Your children can receive their share in cash or other liquid assets from the remainder of your estate.
This arrangement allows each individual to benefit immediately and avoids prolonged waiting periods. However, if most of your wealth is tied up in the family home, alternative structures such as trusts may be more effective.

2. Life Interest Trust
A life interest trust ensures that your surviving spouse is taken care of while protecting an inheritance for your children.
- The surviving spouse is entitled to live in the family home or receive income generated from the estate (e.g., interest from investments).
- The capital or property within the trust is passed to your children upon the spouse’s passing.
This ensures that your spouse cannot sell or bequeath the property to others, safeguarding your children’s future. However, it’s important to understand that this approach delays children from receiving their inheritance until the surviving spouse passes away, sometimes taking decades.
3. Discretionary Trust
A discretionary trust provides flexibility in how and when funds are distributed to beneficiaries, which can be particularly useful in blended families.
- Trustees have the power to allocate income or capital based on the needs of beneficiaries. For example, a child needing help with university fees or a property deposit can receive funds immediately, while other distributions can be withheld until necessary.
- This level of flexibility allows trustees to adapt to changing circumstances, such as a spouse remarrying.
Make sure to carefully choose your trustees, as they will play a crucial role in making these decisions. Writing a letter of wishes to provide guidance can also be immensely helpful.
4. Tenants in Common Arrangement
If you own a family home with your spouse, consider structuring ownership as tenants in common instead of joint tenants.
- Tenants in common ownership means each party owns a defined share of the home, allowing you to leave your share to your children while your spouse retains them.
- By contrast, with joint tenancy, the surviving spouse automatically inherits the whole property, potentially cutting children out of the inheritance.
If you currently own your home as joint tenants, a solicitor can help you convert it to tenants in common.

Don’t Overlook Tax Implications on Asset Division
When planning your estate, remember to account for the impact of inheritance tax (IHT). Passing assets directly to your spouse is generally exempt from IHT; however, assets left to children are subject to the tax.
Key Considerations:
- Tax-Free Allowances:
- The standard threshold for inheritance tax is £325,000 per individual (the nil-rate band).
- If you leave property to a direct descendant, you can also utilise the residence nil-rate band, an additional allowance of £175,000.
- Any inheritance above these allowances is taxed at 40%, potentially reducing the amount your beneficiaries receive.
Planning ahead with a solicitor ensures that your estate is structured to minimise tax liabilities where possible and avoid unnecessary financial burdens for your loved ones.

Neutral Executors and Trustees Are Key to Avoid Disputes
Given the potential for disagreements in blended families, neutral executors and trustees are essential. Executors oversee the administration of your estate, while trustees are tasked with managing any trusts you establish.
Consider appointing:
- A neutral or professional executor (such as a solicitor).
- Trustees who are impartial and capable of carrying out your wishes effectively.
If you find it difficult to appoint a neutral layperson within your family, a professional executor can safeguard against potential conflicts.
Choosing the Right Strategy for Your Family
Each blended family’s situation is unique, so your estate planning must be tailored to your specific needs. Consider factors such as:
- The total wealth you’ve accumulated, including assets like real estate or investments.
- The ages and financial circumstances of your children and spouse.
- The health and longevity of your current spouse.
- Other potential sources of inheritance for your children.
Estate planning is not just about dividing assets—it’s about providing a sense of security and preventing future misunderstandings.
Safeguard Your Legacy Today
Inheritance planning for blended families is complex but essential. Without a proper plan in place, you risk leaving behind uncertainty, potential disputes, and financial issues for your loved ones. Each decision you make today can prevent such challenges and ensure that your family is well taken care of.
At Soteria Trusts, our expert solicitors specialise in wills, trusts, and estate planning for families just like yours. We will guide you through your options, from drafting a watertight will to establishing the right trust structure.
If you’re ready to secure your family’s future, reach out to our team for a consultation. Our mission is to help you plan with confidence and peace of mind.